It doesn't hurt anymore

       Loss has always bipolar consequences: negative and positive. Of course, the negative side is what we experience first. It implies usually sufferance, regret, remorse, blame, crying and other manifestations of this sad event, meaning losing somebody. I refer here, both on break up and departure from this world. The positive side will be understood just after the pain is gone and the person is healed. In that moment can appear the revelation of the beneficial consequences, I mean all the things what that distress taught and revealed about life and the subject's personality.
      Losing a beloved person forever is the worst what can happen, most of the people it experiences it as a tragedy. This is a theme what I still feel a blind alley, I have my way to deal with death, but I don't think that this is a subject I want to amplify. Grief is very personal, different for everybody, but believing that existence is something eternal and constant and death is just the passing to another level of it, can help to let go and transform grief in preservation of the beloved's memory.
      Losing the centre of one's life, interest and existence is different story. However everybody should consider himself or herself lucky if he/she found at least once the person who became the centre of his/her life. I feel also grateful for this, because I had the privilege to find love for a quite long time. However, I feel also lucky and grateful that I was able to let him go, in fact that I was able to realize that the relationship had to end when the right time came for that. After a blissful time spent together, I can say that I remained not just with many beautiful memories, but also with many lessons.
       Every separation, indifferently if it was friendly or not, should result a redefinition of goals and dreams. At least it was like this in my case, and actually it was a process which started already when the relationship wasn't finished yet. However, losing the person on who I had focused all my attention, around who I tried to organize all my plans, was complicated, because I had to fight with myself, with that side of me who was living in a detached world, not willing to see reality. But this was the right way, I realized it with quite long time after that. I had to fight my inner war, and I won it. After the pain was gone, there weren't remorse or blames, I understood how beneficial was that person in my life, and his important role in my self-improvement. I had to realize all the mistakes I did, all the faults I had, without blaming him for more than he was responsible. and this conciousness made me to want to change...and I changed, almost in every aspect I feel that things got better, and the most important, I got "better".
      In the moment when someone can admit "It doesn't hurt any more" the miracle will happen. It is like a liberation from guilt, false hopes, accusations and sadness. The most important lesson for every girl could be that we don't need a man to be our life, but we need a man who completes our life. But until that person will appear our existence will be more than fine with our goals and dreams, working for them, trying to fulfil them.
        Life can be so much interesting, surprising, magical and funny, if we let it to be so. Some lessons made me aware of this, which key thoughts I will preserve in this post:
SMILE AS MUCH YOU CAN.
BE GRATEFUL FOR EVERYTHING.
BANISH SADNESS WHENEVER APPEARS.
APPRECIATE EVERY PERSON WHO ENTERS IN YOUR LIFE BECAUSE THEY ALL HAVE A ROLE IN IT.
ENJOY EVERY MOMENT, BECAUSE YOU NEVER KNOW WHEN IT ENDS.
PATIENCE IS A POWER AND HELPS TO ACHIEVE YOUR GOALS.
KINDNESS DOESN'T COST NOTHING BUT IT CAN MEAN VERY MUCH FOR THOSE WHO RECEIVE IT.
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(this list will be completed whenever I get a new lesson)

Wonderful good morning

     In all this time I was absent from my blog, I missed to write, but I knew that the inspiration must come. I thought that a great event, or a great person will be the launching force of my creativity. I felt very often in the last months that I have so many things to say and to share, but somehow something stopped me from sitting down and put in words what I feel. Even the attempts to immortalize the events or feelings in my journal were few and kind of useless.
     But now, here I am, in a regular Tuesday morning, starting what I'm planning for almost a month, from the time I got home and I decided that I will change my life. There is no great event, no great person, just the desire to accomplish and put in practice all the motivational things I read, saw and I was taught, because without practice they don't have value. As soon as I decided to pass on the nex level and practice all for what I say "Life is worthy to live" inspiration just bumped into my mind. It was enough just a great, positive start of a beautiful morning. The greeting of the the morning with a motivating meditation, which brought the missing sunshine into the dark winter dawn, in combination with an energizing yoga session is my perfect recipe for this morning.
    A good start is the key to a great day, and I'm sure that all the things I want to do today will go smoothly and at the end of the day I can go to bed pleased. This fulfillment will be completed by some new posts in this blog, as I have so many things to share and to transmit.

HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY FILLED WITH POSITIVE AND PEACEFUL THOUGHTS, BECAUSE THEY HAVE UNIMAGINABLE CREATIVE AND MATERIALIZING POWER.